Caroline’s husband is a jerk!  He never communicates, never cares, barely works, and rarely shows his appreciation towards Caroline.  Caroline often confides in her closest friends regarding her husband and how annoying he is to her.  She is often depressed after dealing with him, so she spends all of her spare time reading romantic novels, and fantasizing about the brave, caring, romantic, and loyal men in those novels.

So what’s next for Caroline and her husband, well, we’ll discuss that in a moment.

Build Up or Tear Down

Every action, every thought, every moment, is either creating the life you desire, or tearing down the foundation of your desires.

Often people have grand desires …but their actions don’t build upon those desires.  On the contrary, their actions, thoughts, words, and deeds, destroy their desires at there very root.

Instead of dedicating their life to “build” upon their desires, they instead “hide-out,” hoping that their desires somehow come to pass, all the while doing nothing daily to guarantee the manifestation of the things in which they say they desire most.

The Warrior

While it is easy and perhaps comforting to sit around wishing for your desires to come to pass, let me assure you, that approach will never work.  To manifest the things that you want most, there’s one approach necessary, and that approach is to “start building.” 

You have to get your hands dirty and build your way to success.

Anyone can sit around and complain, tearing down the very foundation of that in which the wish to build.  But a warrior will build; he or she will build in the face of impossibilities, in the face of disappointment, in the face of setbacks, in the face of “no hope.”  The warrior knows that success doesn’t come easy, and in order to manifest their desires they’re going to have to fight.  They’re going to have to go down into the “belly of the beast,” in order to come back with the spoils. 

Solomon said, “If you faint in the day of adversity, your strength is small.”  A warrior doesn’t faint when things look difficult, they fight harder.  Sometimes you need a little adversity; you need a little hardship just to prove to yourself that you have some “fight left in you.”  What kind of warrior doesn’t fight every now and then? 

To get what you desire, you’re going to have to fight for it!  You’re going to have to spend your time building-up, not tearing down.  Every action should build-on your desires: every word, every thought, and every deed needs to build.  If you’re not building, you’re tearing down by default.  Either you gather, or you scatter.

Caroline and Her Husband

So, is Caroline being a warrior in this situation?  Is she building-up, or tearing down?  I submit to you that she’s tearing down. 

The energy that she could give towards her husband …by lovingly teaching him how to be a “man;” that energy is being consumed complaining to her friends.  The problem with that is, “her friends can’t make her husband any better,” only her husband can do that.  Someone may be thinking, is it really her responsibility to teach her husband how to be a man?  And the answer is a resounding yes!   She’s the one who married him, and she’s the one who desires him to act like a man.

Caroline can complain, or she could help?  She can read novels about great men, or she can dedicate her time to making her man great.  It’s “very easy” to sit around and complain and to talk to your friends about your problems.  Let me re-emphasize, it’s very easy!  And it is difficult, challenging, tough, tricky, complicated, easier said then done, taxing, demanding, and rough to face issues head-on and decide to work through them.  It’s hard to motivate someone who doesn’t want to be motivated, but it’s possible.

Success is about going into the “belly of the beast,” and disarming the ticking time-bomb.  No one said it was going to be easy, but a warrior needs a challenge every now and then to confirm their “warriorship.”  How else will we know that you’re a warrior?  …Unless you win a few battles.

The Conclusion

Although I’ve used the illustration of a relationship in this article, this idea of building-up or tearing down is applicable to every aspect of your life.  For example, if you’re going to break a bad habit, you must spend your time tearing down the activities that contribute to the bad habit, while building on the activities which contribute to good habits.  I could go on-and-on, but my point is…

To succeed you must have a “warrior’s mentality,” you can’t faint when things get a little rough.  You can’t settle for the “status quo.”  A warrior will bring his or her desires to past, they won’t relent, they won’t give up, they won’t back down, they won’t take “no” for an answer, if they’re going to die, they’re going to die fighting!  A warrior never gives up, a warrior will always succeed!

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